It's amazing how so differently wired men and women are, and it's really important to be able to understand this and work with this knowledge to avoid a lot of 'heart-aches' lol..
Usually when I read enlightening articles like this, I send it by email to a group of my friends (male and female). Now, this one sparked a very interesting email conversation that I share below...
Mr BiishopFinally, women can begin to read about guys and truly understand how guys work!!!!
Eh! Surely theris God O!!!!
Thanksgiving tinz on Sunday
Lol, serious thanksgiving tinz on Sunday.. Getting my praise on.. Infact including testimony too!
I have gleaned the information, and God will help me to apply.. But mehn, sometimes I wonder why men and women are so different.. If we thought the same way, it would make life so much easier ... And possibly very boring too! lol
God definitely knows what He was (and is) doing!
In recent times, I have really come to know, understand, respect and then appreciate these variant wiring.Baba God you do well oooo. Lol.
OneWe need a post as well describing the importance of men understanding the need for them to compromise once in a while and just talk!
I think all women should read this post and have as devotion sha, that way there will be more world peace. #JustSaying.
Guys should also learn about women and all, but you girls are complicated sha.
But what's so complicated in 'open your mouth, heart all and talk?' Lol. Talking is good, talking is therapeutic, talking is beautiful, blissful, *rme* (rolling my eyes). I don't know why they don't want to talk.
Btw (By the way), I've learnt to develop an interest in sports, politics, science and all those other very dry sturvs. Lol.
|This is what they teach them in 'Men School' lol|
Mr BiishopWell if men talked as much as women did... Hmmmmm
I can't imagine it, even some guys who are gifted with the art of talking frustrate women.
Guys are very chatty at the early stages and then...
|"Enough already!" Source|
I think it would be quite a 'disaster' if men talked as much as women! (who will do the listening?!) lol. BUT it's still good for them to express themselves to their partners. Love is a risk, which includes being vulnerable! Therefore, if you have made that choice to love then you have to take the responsibility that comes with it too - the good, bad and ugly (including talking lol).
Erhmm, by the way, is that not double standards (being chatty at the earlier stages).. Later they will say women pretend during courtship!
Thank you.Then what happens?
.. Then I think the guy has gathered whether or not to allow some intimate parts to be shared, in my own opinion, I say guys are like onions, layered and you don’t rush to peel otherwise two things happen - either you cry (eyes get watery) or you mess up a layer or other aspects of the layers yet exposed, a true revelation of a guy's mind and girls is in the book 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'. A must read for both guys and girls.
OneHmm.. That's very deep - I like the onion analogy.. But gosh, that's some longgggg sturves.. I think the key is patience/long-suffering - Not in the time I think it should happen but when he is ready to open up (Lord please make it quick!! lol).
I have heard a lot about that book and I hear it's a worthwhile read, just like 'The 5 Love Languages'.
Ms HopeYes, the best way for a woman to deal with it is to be at peace with the situation, don't pressurize, let your actions and inactions show him his secrets are safe with you and ultimately place the situation in prayer.
*End of Conversation*
So what's your take on it? Should men be more expressive? How do you work with a chatty or non-chatty partner?