Friday 24 January 2014

Trust? Yeah I trust you -__-


"Believe what he says and ACT like you believe him. Keep casting every doubt aside and affirming him when you think he deserves it or not. TRUST is very important. Don't just say it, act like you do". 

I have a file on my phone where I document a number of pointers I have learnt and still learning when it comes to the way I hope to relate with the man I get married to.

There's usually a reason or background behind each statement - It's usually culled from a bad mistake, an action that got a great response, a book I read, something I listened to or watched or one of those deep conversations with my wonderful circle of friends! It could even be a poster while riding somewhere or an impression on my heart somehow....

As I wrote in a previous post HERE, I used to have serious issues with trust! As in I could win the award for Miss Paranoia! I ask questions about his past to 'help' us be open and then some of the information torments me and I make it almost not worth it! As in.. Can somebody say *Serious Issues!*.. Well thank God for grace and deliverance lol.

I wrote the above in my document, inspired by what my mummy told me during one of my paranoia experiences in my previous relationship. I was dating a guy who was quite popular and like bees to honey seemed to attract a number of ladies. However, he tried as much as possible to assure me of his faithfulness and commitment (trust me, I could have been with Mr Totally uncool and still be on guard, FBI ain't got nothing on me!).. But noooo, not for me.. One minute I'm like "Yes, I believe you and the next I'm investigating body language, likes on pictures, history with person A and person B and generally acting so bad that I was depriving myself the privilege of just enjoying being with him and worse still hurting someone I really cared about.

I didn't know this even existed!

TRUST is an essential part of being in any kind of relationship. Trust is not just words, it's best put into action. You cannot claim to trust someone and your actions say the exact opposite.. Infact it's best you act it rather than say those words at all "I Trust You".

If you don't trust someone, you have no business being in a relationship with them, therefore if you choose to go into a relationship with them, you indirectly make up your mind to love and trust implicitly.


One thing I also realised was that my inability to trust was somewhat founded on selfishness - I wanted to be CERTAIN that no one was taking me for a fool, nah ah! I wanted to ensure that I, ME was getting the best deal. I wanted to make sure that I, ME wasn't being taken for granted, I wanted to protect MY self... Forgetting that when you commit to a relationship, it stops being about only you... Love is a sacrifice of self and desires and good compromise on many levels.

TRUST is also a factor that is indispensable in our relationship with God.. We mar a good relationship with the King of Kings when we doubt his word or the assurance of His promise.. Sometimes we say it, we sing it, we confess it "I Trust You" but our actions negate our profession..

If it hurts us as human beings when our nearest and dearest don't trust us, it must hurt God whenever we act in unbelief and in doubt.. It's like "But I parted the red sea!" "But I raised Lazarus from the dead" "But I made Esther Queen!" "But I gave Hannah Samuel!" - What could be so difficult, why don't you trust me... And act like you do..

When we act in trust, it's called faith-in-action. Remember without it, it is impossible to please God (Hebrews 11:6)

PS I read a great article on Eloxie's blog 'Worry Not' .. You should read it too :-) xx

Friday 17 January 2014

Dear Daddy - It's Thank YOU from me

My Dearest Daddy,

My Altogether Lovely Gentleman of Galilee. Emmanuel, my Jireh, my Hero, my sufficiency, my All in All - Mother, Father, Lover, Best Friend.

I have so much to say.. But I'll just summarise my heart song by saying THANK YOU DADDY! You have been incredibly amazing to me, I have so many testimonies.. THANK YOU..

There's this song that I heard the choir do justice to in church some months back (the Pastor and church loved it so much, it became our thank you anthem).. Daddy, may I share it with you today and hope it blesses the heart of at least one of your children who read this post!

Like the song says... I am the one that came back to say THANK YOU.. I'm grateful for ALL that you have done.. I had to come back, my heart made me run back, to say THANK YOU!

Even if like the 10 lepers, only one person comes back to say THANK YOU, that One would be me.. Thank You Jesus!

Your forever girl,
One xx

Thursday 16 January 2014

Golden Words - I Am Sorry

Hello everyone!! Just checking in..

I have found that one of the HARDEST phrases to say is 'I am sorry'... I don't know why but here are a few reasons why I think it's so difficult:


1. It involves a very huge helping of humble pie.
2. It goes against most of the things your ego stands for
3. It means an admission of wrong-doing
4. It could make you appear weak or as the weaker party
5. Sometimes, you actually don't feel sorry
6. The other person/people may feel like they 'won'.
7. It shows that you actually make mistakes.
8. It just doesn't feel good..
9. Include yours..


Saying I'm sorry can leave a bad taste in your mouth in some cases, however it is one of the most powerful phrases that can turn what could turn out to be a bad situation right around.

The phrase works for both older and younger people, colleagues and friends, family and strangers..

It's usually better when verbally expressed and not just making amends by being extra nice to the person (this works after you have said the golden words!)

I know some people find it verrrry difficult stringing those words together.. And ironically to our dearest and closest, it seems even harder! But it works a world of wonders - especially when said from a sincere place.


"I am Sorry"

Practice it - say it - let it be a (GREAT) part of you!

A relationship could be saved by those simple 3 words - I Am Sorry.

So tell me, do you find it easy to apologise when wrong or even when you feel like you're right?

Monday 13 January 2014

A love-ing YOU - 2014!

Hello everyone!

Like I mentioned in my previous post HERE, the theme for this blog in 2014 is BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS!

As an individual, I am passionate about seeing relationships flourish.. Not just romantic ones but even platonic relationships too.. I am interested in the art of improving the way we relate with one another as human beings.. and in particular, this topic is dear to my heart as a Christian - because God says we must love Him (relationship) and love others as we love ourselves (more relationship)!

I have discovered that building relationships starts with building one's self.. Yes, it starts with YOU! - In some instances, you would need to change YOUR thinking, YOUR reaction and improve the way YOU relate and communicate with people.. It's not easy at all but one thing I know for sure is that it's WORTH IT!

So ladies and gentlemen, let's do this! May God give us the grace to be better spouses, children, parents, siblings, relatives, friends! And above all, may it give God pleasure :-)

Lots of love people xxxx

Today and always xxxx

PS Apologies for not fulfilling my promise of starting the new series last week! Things happened and now my access to the internet is very limited (temporary though).. I will start this month by God's grace.. Thank you for your forgiveness and understanding *wink* xx

Monday 6 January 2014

It's a new day, it's a new month, it's a NEW YEAR!

Happy and blessed 2014 my darling darling blog community! May God bless you immensely!

It feels GOOOOOD to be back :-D

Thanks to all those who left a comment here and via twitter @1plustheone. I gat too much love for you all! You make life extra extra beautiful! *smiles*

Hope your new year has started on a great note? 2014 feels like is going to be a GREAT year!

The theme for the blog this year is BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS! With God, significant other, family, friends and basically everyone around us! It would be exciting and enlightening by God's grace woohooo!!


So get ready folks, it's about to get all kinds of great here!


PS, something new coming up tomorrow!! Stay tuned.

Love you, God bless you xxxx