First of all, thank you soooo much for the response and comments to the first feature of the Waiting and Loving It! series... You people are a huge blessing to me!
I am excited about the features and it's wonderful to know that people have been blessed by it - Thank God! If it's your first time here, you can read a mini introduction and the first feature HERE!
Without much ado, I bring you this week's feature on Waiting and Loving It! As usual, please sit back, relax, enjoy and above all, be blessed! xxxx
1. Please tell us a little about yourselves please
Debo: I am Adebowale Omole, a Facilities Manager by profession and an easy going individual. Been Married 5 years and I've been blessed with two pretty girls.
Derin: Aderinola Omole, a daughter, sister, wife and mum. A Human Physiologist and Sexual Health Promotion practitioner. Been married 5 years plus (Oct. 4, 2008)
2. How did you meet?
Debo: I first saw her (while taking mental notes) and had the briefest of conversations when we were both rejected along with a few others at the first place of primary assignment during NYSC. We were later brought together at our Community Development group in Benue State and I had the opportunity to really meet her. I took more interest in my church when I learnt we attended the same church too.
Derin: Met my husband during NYSC precisely during the CD(community development) activity (though he says we met earlier than that but my first recollection of meeting him was during the CD activities) and then later church.
3. What initially attracted you to your spouse?
Debo: Her ability to get what she wants from others without making a fuss. She’s also got Angelic looks.
Derin: During our NYSC CD day, he was usually there early to set up and never saw himself too big to help anyone do anything. Basically his humility and on a lighter note his voice (really deep considering his size) and of course he is good looking!
4. How did you know that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with him / her?
Debo: I knew I wanted to because on my list was “a God fearing woman who was disciplined”, but I got more convinced after we had our first major disagreement. When we made up I knew we could manage our imperfections.
Derin: Hmmm… The God factor was there because I did pray about it because he was someone I had never met. We did not have any history together however vague (like going to same schools or living in the same neighbourhood or having mutual friends….there was no history…we did not even cross paths on NYSC camp!) to tell you the truth I can’t really say it was one thing or the other because he did not exactly tick all my boxes, though being God-fearing and a family centered person dipped in his favour but one thing I was quite sure of when I agreed to the relationship in the first instance was that there was no going back. It was simply going to get better and better and that, it has been so far.
5. What made you make the decision to wait?
Debo: Paramount on my mind was the fear of having a baby!! Secondly, I asked God for her, Thirdly, I love her that much to make our first time special.
Derin: First of all, as part of obedience to God’s word that says that marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled. Secondly, I knew I wasn’t ready to or couldn’t bear whatever consequence came with premarital sex especially pregnancy.
6. What practical measures did you take to ensure that you stuck by your decision?
Debo: We promised to be honest about how we felt. If for instance I was feeling aroused I would tell her and she would suggest we join friends or family to kill the feeling and vice versa. We also prayed about it separately.
Derin: Being gatekeepers of one another. Constantly reminding ourselves of the decision to wait and being practical with the way we feel in our bodies.
Now very legal! haha
7. What one advice would you give to your single self in preparation for marriage now that you’ve crossed that line
Debo: Waiting will not kill you and do not tempt yourself
Derin: Be prepared for the unexpected.
8. Describe in 3 words / sentences the best part of being married!
Debo: The best part of being married is having someone to share the best moments with, having someone to encourage you and having someone you can officially “ahem” with without guilt.
Derin: Having someone to share your thoughts, fears, aspirations, successes, failures, moments (good or bad) with. To be openly ‘open’ with without judgment or prejudice and someone to encourage and tell you he understands even if he really doesn’t understand so you can feel better.
Such a delightful couple! May God continue to bless their marriage and home! xxxx