LINE OF FRIENDSHIP

Quick question,

Can guys and girls JUST be friends??

I know this is an age old question but I would still like to know..

How "close" can you be to a friend of the opposite sex who is in a relationship? I have had this conversation with a lot of my girl friends who are in this kind of situation.

For instance, I have a friend who is "best friends" with this guy who has a girlfriend... He talks to her, *his buddy* first thing in the morning.. sends her texts/emails and sometimes an additional phone call just to show he cares.. When he has issues, he runs to her for advice especially when he wants to get a female opinion (you get me?).. He even seeks her advice when he wants to do something special for his girlfriend (No one questions the fact that he loves his girlfriend, he lets the whole world knows!)..

Although they are really just friends, I always ask the question "Would you like your boyfriend to have a girl-friend like that?"... As a guy, would you be comfortable if your girlfriend had that kind of relationship with another guy? What would happen during "vulnerable" moments? (cause there would surely be)

So what are your thoughts?? Where do you draw the line of friendship?? Is there a line to be drawn really or should your other half be a bit more understanding and accommodating??

There's Nobody like You.....

....... For some reason, I have only just listened to this amazing song by Lara George. I cannot begin to describe how much I love this song. Perhaps it's because of the deep love I have for the One she sings about.. Oh the words are so beautiful and so true! And the way in which the song is sung with such emotion and passion makes me "enter" into it...

I love any song that talks about the fact that there's no one like our God.. This is soo true! Like one song aptly puts it, you can search everywhere and through eternity and still find that there is no one like God, there is no one like Jesus!

This is why/how I know:

-No one loves me the way He does

- No one makes me feel the way He makes me feel

- No one completes me like He does

- Nothings satisfies my soul like He does

- No one makes me feel complete like He does

- No one makes me feel as special as He does

- No one will willingly die for me like He did

- No one will wipe away all my tears like He does

- No one cares as deeply and as sincerely as He does

- No one knows how to fill my heart with such utter joy like He does

- No one makes me smile like he does

... I could go on and on..

Ok, just a little bit more :-)

- No one is as great as He his

- No one holds the world in the palm of His hands like He does

- No one sends rain in due season like He does

- No one knows how to make the thunders roar and lightnings strike like He does

- No one knows how to make the birds sing or the lions roar like He does

- No one knows how to make the sun set or the moon shine like He does

- No one knows how to part the sea in two like He did

- No one knows how to send fire from the sky and even lick up water like He did

- No one knows how to heal diseases with words like He can

- No one knows how to touch you in the place where it really hurts like He knows

- No one understands like He does

- No one forgives all like He does

- No one knows the beginning and is the beginning like He does and is

- No one knows the end and is the end like he does and is

Oh Ancient of Days, Balm in Gilead, Holy One of Israel, I Am that I Am, Sword of My Excellency, Faithful Witness, First Begotten of the Dead, Prince of the Kings of the Earth, Alpha, Omega, Son of God, Amen, Beginning of the Creation of God, He that holds the Seven Stars in His Right Hand, Who Walks in the midst of the Seven Golden Candlesticks, Who has the Sharp Sword with Two Edges, Who has the Seven Spirits of God and the Seven Stars, Holy, True, Who holds the Key of David, Who Opens and no man can Shut, Who shuts and no man can Open.... THERE IS NO ONE LIKE YOU!

I'm Waiting....*sigh*

I’m waiting for the right guy to…

Take me out on a perfect date so I can…

Look hot and…

Wear my special outfit…

He would also spoil me with treats…

And buy me that blackberry/Iphone…

We would both go on special trips and…

Tour all the wonderful places I have heard off…

He’ll be the one to make me smile and…

Feel completely satisfied, on top of the world…

This will definitely improve my productivity and…

Make waking up early in the morning much more interesting…

Especially as his texts are the ones I would wake up to…

Calming my early morning nerves and…

Ensuring I would be a saint through the day…
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Sorry I was practicing for when I would be too busy…

Reading his texts and spending time with him…

Sometimes it would even make me forget what to write (or that I was writing!)

I’m sure some people would read the above with a smile and a little shake of the head! Isn’t it funny that some of us are waiting for the right guy to do all the things that we plan to do or hope to achieve? (Mind you, for some ladies, you can strike out the ‘right’ as they are just waiting for a guy, period! Lol.. We sometimes feel that once that right man comes, most of our life’s troubles would be sorted. There’s so much expectation placed on the right man and the right relationship that it sometimes contributes to extinguishing it even before anything can take root!

I strongly believe that one should embrace all of life’s opportunities as we have it now and stop putting off certain things until the right man comes.

Don’t wait to go on that date, do it now! Try setting up a ‘date’ with your friends and treating yourselves to a nice day or evening out! Learn to feel comfortable and enjoy your own company and that of your platonic friends. Factually, it may not be as exciting and wonderful as it would be with a significant other, nevertheless it is very worth it, you only have to try it to understand and appreciate the power of good, solid friendships!

Wear that gorgeous outfit now!
Don’t wait for a guy you can impress before you look nice. Love yourself enough to do things for yourself and not for the sake of others, it helps your self-esteem and the way you rate yourself. Besides trust me, if you don’t inculcate the habit now, don’t expect a miracle later.

Waiting is good, waiting is beneficial – I mean, the bible says that it develops our ability to be patient and patience they say is a virtue… On the other hand, waiting can be hard, it can be frustrating, it can be an absolute nightmare.

It’s up to you my friend to decide if you would rather ‘count sheep’ whilst waiting, or get on with other aspects of life and improve yourself in the process.

Oh How Times Have Changed!!

Hallo!
You have to read this to believe it!
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So the question now is do you think we should revert to this system, and are women just too liberated for comfort in today's world? In addition, would this measure, if strictly adhered to, perhaps reduce the rate of divorce in today's world??

lol xx

Oh how times have changed!!! *Sigh*

Valentine new wahala?

It seems like everyone around me is getting engaged!!

Left, right, front, back... ..

I blame it on Valentine's day, in fact the whole month of February!!

Now people are no longer satisfied with chocolates and flowers on the 14th, oh no! they want you to put a ring on it!! (Actually maybe Beyonce may partially be responsible... that's for all you Beyonce-ogling guys out there hahahaha - evil laugh - now you'll think again before watching THAT video again, serves you right!)

As if the pressure wasn't bad enough! lol I feel sorry for the guys.. Shey it was the amount you spent on gifts you were "fearing" before... Now you will have to save up for that sparkly ring (and it has to be nicer than the one her friend got mind!) and of course the great big day...

So guys do you feel the pressure? And ladies, would you like a valentine's day proposal??

Personally, my verdict is still out on it you know. For one, it would be sooo obvious unless the guy's got extra game and manages to still make it unique regardless of the fact that there's a ripple of "YES!" across the world on the day!

Hmmm....

... NEW POST!! lol

NEW POST! NEW POST!! NEW POST!!!

I know, I know! It's a looooooong time coming!

Happy New Year and everything in - between!

Oh my goodness I've missed blogging/blogville/everything blogified!

I'm always glad to be back..

I don't know why I am so lazy when it comes to blogging!

If only I were confident (not to mention technical savvy hehe) enough to do audio posts seeing as I like to talk soo much!

I'm guessing that then I would be regular enough lol...

I must mention here that you guys are tres amazing!! Your encouraging comments put the much needed grease on my elbow to come back! Merci beaucoup ma cherie(s)!! :-)

So much has already happened this New Year!

With respect to that, I would just like to say that please appreciate everyone that you love, don't wait for "tomorrow" to show them how much you care.. Remember tomorrow is not promised to anyone, we can only hope and pray for it... Do something nice for them TODAY!! Especially that thing you've been meaning to do.. "I don't have time" is not a good enough excuse.. Don't wait to have to forcefully look for that time...

My simple message to you is that God has blessed us with such wonderful (and not so wonderful :-) people around us, let's show them just how much we appreciate and love them back!

I love you all!! (Forgive/permit me, I'm feeling quite emotional!)

More importantly I hope you fully understand how loved you are by God... He loves you, He truly truly does!

PS - Someone once said that women are very random, meaning we jump from one train of thought to another... Is that true?.. Actually judging from this post and many others I would have to kinda concur lol!

Peace, love and joy in Jesus...

One

xxxx

Fronting... To be or not to be?

SILLY POST!! :-)

…So it would be good to first and foremost understand the concept of “fronting”. Fronting otherwise referred to as “forming” is a situation whereby an individual (most usually but not exclusively of the female specie) feels it necessary to act uninterested in a guy that she is (most often) interested in, in order to appear coy/shy/demure/innocent/unmoved by the said attention. In addition individuals arguably use this technique to make the interested party even more interested (!) or as a technique to “up” their individual value hence not being regarded as cheap.

A lot of girls would admit to having used this technique in the past, present or future. I myself have been known to be amongst the guilty (although that is still debatable). You see, ladies especially from my part of the world are encouraged to allow the man do the “chasing”. Doing things otherwise, people used to say (well some still say) is a shameless act of desperation! “Oh let him sweat before you agree to even give him your name” “make him wait, he would value you more”.

I know some individuals have perfected the art of fronting. Even if they are dying under with “love” for the interested party, they would absolutely refuse to show it but rather remain aloof to keep the poor person in suspense. Some see it as a power trip – whoever caves in first, loses! I know some people wait for the other to say “I miss you” “I love you” first so they don’t appear too keen and also to re-affirm their position as having the upper hand in a relationship.

I don’t mean to sound too harsh because indeed not all cases are extreme and negative. But sometimes I’m confused on what to think. What’s the real deal? Is it better to play the hard-to-get game or plunge straight in and be honest from the get? Does fronting equate to being dishonest, and is that not bad for a starting (is that a word? Lol) relationship? Also, it’s of concern to me that some people have abused the innocent and clean art of fronting that even when you are ABSOLUTELY NOT interested in the guy/girl, he/she is thinking “oh she’s just fronting/playing hard to get!”.. Oh I have quite a number of stories to that end. Sometimes such people would not go away except by praying and fasting! Is it not funny that it’s usually the ones that you really would NOT have anything to do with who stay the longest??

There’s the story of this guy who used to live close to me a while back whom I first met in church and all. We became friends but then he wanted more than that to which I refused. But this guy p.e.r.s.i.s.t.e.d! In return, I kept constant in saying no, but I guess he was thinking “just wait a few more weeks, she would come round”. Well this one didn’t quite “come round” oo. So after some time and I thought he had (almost) forgotten about going into a relationship, he said he wanted to talk to me. When we got talking, he said “see, I don’t like the way this relationship is going. We don’t spend time together etc etc” In my mind I was like “You what?? Are you having a laugh mate?” I didn’t know whether to laugh or be angry or just stare at him in amazement. Needless to say, I was (very) speechless!! So you see, moral of the story - you can actually be in a relationship with someone and not have a clue about it! lol

Because...

Hiya,

I saw this lovely post by T.D Jakes. I'm guessing that many people might have seen this (which is good enough) but for those who haven't or for anyone who needs a little reminding, here goes!

"BECAUSE" by TD Jakes

Just because no one has been fortunate enough to realize
what a gold mine you are,
Doesn't mean you shine any less.

Just because no one has been smart enough to figure out
that you can't be topped,
Doesn't stop you from being the best.

Just because no one has come along to share your life,
Doesn't mean that day isn't coming.

Just because no one has made this race worthwhile,
Doesn't give you permission to stop running.

Just because no one has realized how much of an
awesome woman you are,
Doesn't mean they can affect your femininity.

Just because no one has shown up who can love you on your level, Doesn't mean you have to sink to theirs.

Just because you deserve the very best there is,
Doesn't mean that life is always fair.

Just because God is still preparing your king,
Doesn't mean that you're not already a Queen.

Just because your situation doesn't seem to be progressing right now, Doesn't mean you need to change a thing.

Keep shining, keep running, Keep hoping, and keep praying,
Keep being exactly what you are already. COMPLETE!!

Get it Right!

New Post, New Post!! (Big Grin)

I'm always glad to come back to blog on here although it's becoming increasingly difficult. i woud like to share a bit of myself here (I guess that's part of what blogging is about - opening up and sharing with people your thoughts and brain child).

There's a saying I heard/read once that I really like and that is "A foolish man learns from his own mistakes and a wise man learns from the mistakes of others". I remember when I read that, I thought to myself "yeah, that makes sense and I definitely one to be the wise one" hence I made up my mind to try as much as possible to watch carefully and learn from others who have gone through stuff that I may be able to avoid such. On the other hand, another popular saying goes "experience is the best teacher" ergo, sometimes the best way to know what it feels like or to learn a lesson is to have a taste of it - you never know what heat is until you go near or touch fire.

For me, both sayings are quite apt, my life is a combination of both; in some cases, I have seen things happen to people or people do stuff in certain ways with bad or good results and I have either avoided or embraced it while in other cases, I have had to go through some things for me to fully appreciate it.

So enough with the philosophy, what exactly is my point.. Well, I hope in the next couple of posts to share a bit of my relationship story (s). You see one thing I have realised is that as a young Christian lady, it is sometimes so difficult to have a "Christian" relationship in today's world and in many cases, you compromise - either in a "big" way or in a "minor" way. For many people, our desire is to do it God's way, but time and time again even the best of Christians miss it and it's only after it doesn't work out that you think to yourself "What was I thinking???"

You see, relationships are a big part of our formative years and life is very much defined by it.. I'm not talking only in terms of romantic relationships but platonic and familial as well. So many people have been damaged by wrong relationships and inversely, so many people have been rescued and nurtured by the right relationships and associations. My prayer for you is that you would realise what the right kind for you is and embrace it, in order to be that which God has made you and called you to be.

I would continue in the next post and start from the beginning :-)

For now, I hope you know that the best relationship is the one with the One.. Jesus makes it all worth it and only Him can complete anyone.... I leave you with this beautiful song and wish you a most beautiful weekend.

God bless you xx

Conversations

My darling daddy,

How are you? My love, my joy, my peace, the glory and the lifter of my head..

I am just so thankful to you for all of the ways that you have shown me grace and favour.

It's good to have a father like you. I know I can talk to you about anything and everything and you will understand like no one else would.

Daddy I'm a bit confused, please make things clear and please give me the strength to make the right decision. I want to just hide in the shadow of your wings.

Everyday I am reminded of your profound love for me. I know that you hold me in such high esteem, I know that I am so precious to you. Perhaps if only we all knew just how precious we were to you!

But sometimes we forget daddy, and sometimes like the prodigal son it takes eating with swine to wake up and realise that in your palace, we are kings and queens.

Thank you for everything daddy.

Love you always,

One