Thursday, 4 October 2012

Let's talk about SEX!

I know you would be eager to read this post.... hehehehe

Today, I just wanna share an excerpt from a message given by Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo this morning at the RCCG Youth Convention in Nigeria (Yup! I'm a bonafide RCCG-ite :-D)

Judging from my 2 previous posts, the issue of sex is one that a lot of people are interested in for a variety of reasons. For some, it's that we they are looking forward to it excitedly, some are wanting to keep themselves from it until it is done rightly in the context and security of marriage, some are looking to get away from it as it has been dabbled in before marriage and are looking for a way out.

We certainly need to know more about sex from God's point of view and I hope that the following write-up will help someone who reads this blog:

(It's quite lengthy but it's worth the read)


Proverbs 4:23, Proverbs 6: 23-27

Be careful what you take in, the music and movies you watch could desensitizes you to the truth. It is the truth you know that will set you free.

Colossians 3:5-6

You are to honour God with your body, sex is not allowed outside marriage.

Even though Nike may say 'Just do it!" You're not to with SEX!

The simple thought of sex crossing your mind is not a sin but the desire for sex is the sin!

Sex goes beyond the physical, it's spiritual and emotional!

In the bible, when a man sleeps with his wife the bible says "He knew his wife" but when a young man sleeps with an unmarried woman the bible says "He laid with her"

Don't let anybody deceive you, you can know them by their words. e.g "You don't need to tell anybody what we are about to do!"

If a guy comes to you with a condom, he is a con(artist) and you are dumb!

Virginity is something you give away and not what is taken from you by force! If you were violated and tampered with, only your virginity is broken, you destiny isn't, so don't mess up yourself! You are still so precious in God's sight. God values you, He values your body so honor Him with it!

85% of those who live together before getting married end up divorced. 50% of marriages in UK and 80% of black marriages in US end up in divorce!

If you sell yourself cheap, you end up being treated anyhow. A man who cannot treat you like a lady doesn't deserve you and any woman who cannot treat you like a prince doesn't deserve you!

Don't start what you can't handle! The skin is only a few centimetres deep and beneath that skin, there are 18million nerves passing information round. When ever someone touches you sexually, your nerves sends info that are stored somewhere in your brain. That's why when you see the person later you remember the touch! You have imprints of people on your life through sexual relationships.

Don't let anyone touch you in a way that is not holy. From hugs to kissing and then the deed happens unplanned!

Once you mess up your sexual life, it messes up your spiritual life! Get it right!

Exodus 26, 27 gives a summary of the Tabernacle. It was divided into the outer court, the Holy place, Holy of Holies. As a human being, your body is the outer court, your soul the holy place and your spirit the holy of holies!

The outer court gave access to many levities and they brought their sacrifices there. Your body is your outer court many people will have access to you, you'll meet many boys/girls but be careful, many will come and go. Proverbs 4:23

Only the priests were allowed into the holy place. The holy in your body is your soul. Your emotions are conceived there. Before you let anyone touch your soul, be very careful! The reason many broken relationship ends up a soul tie is because they let someone else make an impact on their soul and no matter how much they try to forget the person it is difficult.

Guard your soul, don't let just any nice person get in. The holy place had a lampstand in it, anyone who must get into your holy place was be a lamp. Ladies, any man that wants to court/date/marry you must have more light than you already have! He needs to be the lamp! Don't settle for less!

Only the High priest was allowed to enter into the holy of holies (Hebrews 9:7) ! He had to break through the veil to get in. There is only man allowed to get into you and that is your husband! When a man sleeps with a virgin, it's more than just sex! It's spiritual, it's a blood covenant!

Guys note, everywhere you go as a man and have sexual releases, your testicles will testify against you! The reason God gave you two testicles is because the bible says out of 2 or more witnesses, a statement is established (Deuteronomy 17:6).

There is a point when sexual activities goes beyond the physical, it becomes a demonic activity! It is spiritual!

Easy sex does not make more romance, neither does not give joy and happiness!

When you have sex while waiting to be married, you crush the foundation of your marriage

Don't let anyone blackmail you to stay in a relationship! After giving your life to Christ break away from every ungodly relationship!

Titus 2:11-12

To get out:

It requires the decision to maintain your integrity!

It requires a bold step to confront ungodly relationship you are in!

Break away and make a vow to be pure!

Keep yourself and honour God with your life!

No sex is safe sex!

Desire change, deny yourself!


  1. Ok, this is long...
    Summary is flee from sex abi? If it knocks on your door, climb fence at the back of your house and run. At least that is what I got

  2. LOL.. As always, a delight to have you here SNM... Yeah - flee, why flee, how flee, et al
    Hope you're good xx

  3. love this article! Just talks about sex from the bible (God's) point of view, no dilutions, frills or unnecessities! btw love your articles and the way you write! you speak the truth but with humour and wit without diluting the main gist of the message! Please continue to write more and look forward to reading more from you one! xxxx

  4. loved it loved it loved it.


    and this past confirms you don't even have to have premarital sex to have a soul tie with someone-

    "Only the priests were allowed into the holy place. The holy in your body is your soul. Your emotions are conceived there. Before you let anyone touch your soul, be very careful! The reason many broken relationship ends up a soul tie is because they let someone else make an impact on their soul and no matter how much they try to forget the person it is difficult."

  5. wow!!!!
    wow again!!!!!
    wow! wow! wow!!!!!
    first of all, i didnt get the 1+1+1 thing but now, i do...
    you+your other half +God(in 3 persons) makes you all one..
    Just like a love triangle. a traingle has three sides and yet, its just a single triangle joined together. The kind of relationship God had ordained for us and Him right from the beginning of time
    if i continue, i might write another post so lemmie face the one at hand..
    this post was wonderful!!!!!
    gosh!!!an eye opener
    it made me see sex in a different perspective!
    and you were so on point
    what i even wonder or rather i hear sometimes and makes me laugh is when you hear a guy has slept with seven women and you so when you allow him sleep with you, you automatically sleep with him plus the seven people he has slept it
    thats a high degree of fragmentation which people dont even know and they look at you like your own is much
    even the bible says..."he who sleeps with a harlot has become one body with her and so automatically, every single person you have sex with, you've become the same soul, spirit and body with them just like Christ and the Church...
    sex outside marriage fragments the soul and God knows why He designed it that way. its just like anyone outside Christ cannot enjoy that Union between himself and Christ but will only pervert it, it's the same as outside marriage.
    i dont even know where i should begin selecting quotes from your post from cos you just nailed everything
    first time here and i'm glad to have checked you out.
    will most def follow you
    i loooooove your blog about truthful

  6. Awww @senko8, thank you very much. I'm really grateful for your comments! May God help me to write more oh! The spirit is willing but these hands...
    @aloted, Infact that part you just highlighted has 'spoken' to me in a new way. I think I will read the article again and again. Pastor Ashimolowo was just too on point and I like the fact that he was realistic and relevant to 'our time'.
    @sugarspring, PREACH! lol.. I can definitely tell that this is a topic after your heart.
    And you got the 1+1+1 theory spot on! (Thanks for that additional triangle insight, it makes sense gan!
    Thanks to Pastor Ashimolowo oh!
    PS the Youth Convention is still on for those who want to log on at xx

  7. So you posted this? It's nice to read the full version!! There are excerpts on FB but this is comprehensive.

    This is deep, mehn. Hmm, but I have an issue with thinking about sex but not desiring it. At what point does it become sin? When u silently moan without thinking about a man? Or when you're thinking about a man but not having sex with him?? and my self sha. My point is there is a fine line between thinking and desiring ooo lol

  8. LOOOOOOOOOOOL @ testicles..Oh my!!!

    I love love the post..May God continue to help us stay pure till marriage

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