Saturday, 28 January 2012

Everyone desires a GREAT man.... But can you handle him?!


Saturday is usually not a blog-day as I have noticed that there are less activities on the internet social scene on Saturdays.. People are too busy catching up with their weekend 'swag' to think about blogging/poking/twittering etc - Well of course we have the loyal faithfuls, never disappointing, ever sure, always faithful lol *iKid*

I was treated to dinner a few days back by one of my dear friends *thank God for great friends*, we were all ladies and of course it was a great rendezvous for catch up on God, life and love! Every time I have the opportunity to sit down with my girls, I have a splendid, naughty and educative time rolled into one + at this particular restaurant, the manager is always kind to give us free drinks *the pleasures of being female! (Everyone loves freebies #fact) lol

So, a few things that I want to share from our conversation :
- Everyone wants a GREAT man but are you willing to be a GREAT woman?
You see, my friends and I all believe in 'The List' and writing the vision of the kind of man we desire to have and to hold as ours (or is it to have and to hold us?). We are as detailed as possible in what we pray to God for The One to have.. And from my point, just reading my list out loud to myself makes me fall in love with the man already! lol.

I have a habit of bringing out the list periodically and reading/confessing what I desire using Psalm 37:4-5 as a base scripture and thanking God for bringing SUCH a man of a man *swoon* into my life.. I wish I could share this list with you... odikwa too much *shakes head* lol.. I must say though that none of the things on my list are unreasonable.. I tried to be as practical and real as possible. And so far so GOOD.. :-)

In addition to writing this list for HIM, I also chose to write a list for HER. You see, a lot of times, we can be so focused on the right kind of man and the qualities that he must possess that we neglect to think about what kind of woman we desire to be.

The questions I usually ask myself is "When this amazing man comes my way, would he himself want me? Would I be the kind of woman that he would also desire to have if he had a list? Would I qualify to be a man's prayer point? Would I be irresistible to have and to hold and to show off for this man?

I have come to realise that as I pray for this man, he is by God's grace becoming a greater asset, and of course we all know that as his value increases so does his taste as well as the interest of some 'others' *rolls eyes* lol.. My point is this, everybody wants a good thing .. you and HIM.. As you desire to have all these wonderful qualities in your partner, it is very important that you are also checking yourself and ensuring that you possess all those things and more! If you want a partner who loves God, do you? If you want a romantic partner, are you? If you want to have a partner who is sound in the word of God, are you?

Having said this, I have to say that my list for the kind of woman I desire to be is longer than his! I also read it out to myself periodically so that in the areas where I am lacking I can ask God for help and also actively work at improving myself..

You see, as I do so, my value increases, I will be able to boldly and confidently give any competition a run for their money (Compe whatt??! lol) we will be a very compatible match *wink wink* and most importantly we will both give God glory!

So what kind of woman do you desire to be? Write it down.. When that GREAT man comes (or if he is already here) then you can definitely handle him :-) xx


  1. Thanks Doll.. Plans must be in FULL swing.. I pray that it goes beautifully and wishing you all the best and all of God's grace hun xxxx

  2. great post as usual. totally agree with it

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  3. Thanks aloted! Loving the Soulsistas blog..
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