Tale of the Crack-Berry!

Something funny to start off your weekend!!

So I know a lot of people are trying to deal with their 'Crack'-berry addiction.. lol

Here's a little joke someone sent to me...

Family and friends, join me in praising God. My name is One + The One.

Just 2 days ago, I was descending a pedestrian bridge when I suddenly tripped on my shoe lace. I fell down the steps (tumbling several times). In the process, I broke 2 ribs, my hip, my left shoulder, lost 2 front teeth and I also suffered a mild concussion.

Miraculously, nothing happened to my blackberry (Insert shocked smiley here). Not even a single scratch on it! So once again join me in thanking God. God is truly wonderful!!! (Insert dancing smiley here)

PS.. Isn't it funny how it's now so difficult having a conversation or writing a post without the temptation to insert a smiley/emoticon... :-)

PS.. Isn't it funny that you haven't spoken to at least 20 of your bb contacts in the past 1 month.. I tell you this device is making it difficult to maintain human interaction.

PS.. I was chatting with a guy for 2 months and never heard his voice before... I need to 'hear' your voice darling. Enough of the *batting eyelashes* smiley.. Let me bat them at you for real hehehe!

PS.. I haven't spoken to my brother this year (He is in another country and all I we did was 'bb-d' our happy New Years)..

PS. Now you don't have to place that call, just send a voice note!... And end all form of personal interaction

PS..I love my bb still.. xx

Why don't you trust me?

Dear Daddy,

How are you on this beautiful 12th day of the year? It's been so long, I know! I'm sorry.. I wish I could be more loyal to the blog, alas so many things happening, but I thank you!

I don't talk to you through this forum often enough but thank you that you have made it possible that there are so many other ways to communicate with you so I don't feel bereft of your company! I love you so much.

Daddy, recently, there's been such a huge mix of emotions.. One day I am filled with such over-flowing joy that I know your love for me and your plans for me are undeniably great. Nevertheless, other days, I feel so so low.. I remember the things that are not quite right and I feel so sad. I remember that I need more money and I feel so sad. I remember that I am still single while it seems so easy for my friends to be in and maintain a relationship and I feel so sad. I remember that particular thing I have been talking to you and I feel so sad.

To be honest my love, I sometimes feel so afraid of the future and it pains me to admit that sometimes I am not 100% sure about whether you have my back and whether you wouldn't let me fall. I feel guilty when I have these thoughts because I remember ALL the wonderful things that you have done for me and given me and then I feel like such an ingrate.

But I thank you for the opportunity to be honest with you.. I love you and I know, I really KNOW that you love me beyond my comprehension and beyond words. Please help my unbelief... When I feel let down or disappointed by you, it feels like I hear a voice saying 'Why don't you trust me?'

You see I have a special relationship with my family and when I think of what I would be willing to do for them, I remember your promise to me in Psalm 27:10 that even when my father and my mother forsake me, then you would take care of me.. I guess you have to help my unbelief..

Help me to understand and see that when things don't work out quite as well as I think they ought, it's only because you have better plans for me . Help me to understand that patience is a virtue that always produces results in you . Help me to understand that your love for me is so awesome and your power so mighty to do ALL things.

With this my love, my Ever Present Help in time of trouble, my Constant Reassurance, my Light and Salvation, the Stronghold of my Life, the Pillar that Holds my Life, the Glory and the Lifter of my head.. I say thank you for having my best interest at heart :-)

As always, all my love,

One xx

Goodbye 2010, Hello 2011!

Goodbye 2010, Hello 2011!

As it is customary, the first month of the year, January is well-known for resolutions. Usually, the dawn of a new year brings with it fresh promises, renewed dedication, re-ignited passion and fresh hope! In December, one reviews the past year, counts their losses and blessings and hopes that the following year would be better than the previous one.

In the same vein, we say goodbye to 2010 and hello to 2011! It’s time to take stock of how well we did in the area of relationships and which area we need to make resolutions about. The success or failure of the relationship area of our lives does not lie in whether one was able to meet the one or whether one’s relationship status changed from single to engaged , or from engaged to married, rather it is important to measure how much progress one has made.

Progress to some may mean that as a single person, you have been able to improve yourself while waiting patiently for the right person. It’s time to ask yourself questions: “What have I done with myself in the past 12months?” Have you ‘counted sheep’ while waiting for the right relationship to come your way? Have you spent the time obsessing about whether or not the new friend you met is the ONE? Maybe you have spent the last year being bitter and angry at your single status and wondering everyday when your turn to be in a relationship with a significant other would come. Otherwise, you may have been discovering the amazing person God has made you to be! Have you spent time getting to know and fall in love with YOU? Have you come to understand the unique purpose that only you were created to fulfil on this earth? Have you taken time to learn new skills, travel to new destinations, make new friends and enjoy the companionship of family and friends? Have you spent the last one year being the best that you can be? If you haven’t, then it’s time to make a resolution.

Progress in the relationship section could also mean for some that you have been able to get rid of the unfulfilling relationship to make room for God’s best for you. Have you been able to let go of the one that seems to be draining you rather than building you up? Have you been able to say no to the one that common opinion says to just endure but your heart knows will not lead to what you have always dreamed of? Has the past year meant that you have had to make some tough decisions and walk away from some associations? If you are still hanging unto a dead-end relationship, you need to make a resolution.

In addition, progress could mean for some that you have met the ONE. The one that meets your individual preference in a life partner, the one that makes you smile from within, the one that builds you and encourages you to be the best that you can. Have you confirmed with the One who knows all hearts and intents, the One who created the ONE? Have you committed it in prayers to God and asked Him for directions and guidance, as His word says.. “In all your ways, acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path”. If you haven’t, it’s not too late to make a resolution! And if you have, you can still make a resolution, ask yourself “At the end of this year, where would I like to see us?”

It’s time to make a resolution!

Just Before You LAUGH....

Hi people!

Hope you are all well..

Recently, I have learnt something interesting about relationships. It's funny that sometimes, the 'rejected stone' becomes the chief cornerstone.

What do I mean? Well I have come across some ladies or men who say they would rather die than be in a relationship with a particular person. Sometimes we raise our noses up at certain people and think to ourselves that it could and would and should never happen! We laugh even at the thought of it!

Alas! What happens then is that a few weeks/months/years down the line, we are singing a new tune and loving up to this same person we earlier laughed at!

You see, I understand that the older you get, the qualities you look for and desire in the opposite sex starts to change. When I was younger, I wanted the tall, dark, handsome, BAAAD, rude boi! I wanted someone with attitude and someone that was popular. As I have grown older (and hopefully wiser), baad bois don't do it for me anymore like that (I still like a good measure of swagger though!) but now, the inside of a man matters to me much more than the way he looks. Don't get me wrong, I still very much want a man who is very good-looking and charming but I wouldn't touch him with a 10-foot pole if he didn't have character!

For me, life has taught me that when a man treats you right, he becomes the most beautiful creature to you in the world! Even when no one sees it, you begin to look at him with the eyes of love, he appeals to your senses, he becomes attractive to you and you are able to respond to him romantically. I believe I can safely say the same for when a man finds a woman with an excellent character. You know, as I grow older, I have begun to understand more the phrase 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'..

Another thing I also understand is that time, circumstances and age changes people. You see that 'swaggerless' individual you see today? In a few years he becomes the hot 'sturving' that others are running after. You see that doppy girl with the crooked teeth you see today? In a matter of time, she becomes the model chic that men are dying over! The years have matured them and they have come into their own. The experiences they have been through has made them 'metamorphosise' from the caterpillar they once were to the butterfly they are now. Age has fully completed their look. You know, if a mother saw her baby at 1 or 2 months old, she would probably say 'God forbid!' lol.. But when they have been fully formed for 9months, they become the cute, cuddly babies that everyone wants to carry.

There was this guy that had been asking my friend out for the LONGEST time! We used to laugh at him so much and when I want to tease my friend or get on her nerves, I would be like "You and X would get together" or "Why don't you just give him a chance" with my tongue firmly in cheek.. and she would just get so upset or laugh it off saying God forbid, even if he were the last man alive, etc.. For her, looks and image were priority and this guy at the time didn't seem to cut it at all... I remember once having a conversation with her and discussing about how it is possible to fall in love with him if they got to know each other better and she said she was very confident that it could and should and would never happen!

Well imagine my surprise and speechless state when she told me recently that they were in a relationship and had been together for a while! She spoke about him so glowingly and spoke about how she 'just realised' that he was a great person with a great heart... He was there for her during a difficult period and his unshakeable persistence with her through many boyfriends and laughter(s) (at his expense!) eventually melted her heart.... I was GOB-SMACKED!!!

Another friend of mine mentioned that when the man who was to become her husband asked her out, she burst laughing, thinking "You must have guts"... Now she is happily married to him and speaks so well of him..

The ways of God and His plans are soo far from ours that sometimes our limited vision cannot comprehend it and like Sarah we laugh...

But thank God for His mercies, cause even though we laugh He still unveils the treasure in the person and brings His will to pass. Nevertheless, we need to be careful as like Sarah, we may act or do something that has a long-lasting effect before we come to SEE what God sees!

God bless xx

May God give us the grace to SEE before we laugh..

Dear Daddy....... It's a Journey!

Dear Daddy,

I know it's a Monday and normally, I write to you on Fridays (When I actually do write..*sorry* :-). I discovered that sometimes, writing a letter to you makes it easier to express myself.

As always, let me start by saying I love you from the bottom of my heart, you're my number 1! My first love, my best friend, my confidant, my joy, my hero, my daddy.

Daddy, it's a confused little girl that's writing to you this afternoon.. You know Mr E that I was talking to you about in our earlier post here well, it seems like the feelings are back again! I don't know what to do!

You see I really had closed that chapter and even moved on but you see recently we had the opportunity (?) to spend some time together and I loved EVERY bit of it. He brought back all those memories again, how he made me come alive, how it was so easy for him to make me smile or laugh at silly things. How he made me feel young and adventurous! How he seemed to make me come alive!

I wish things could be so much more simpler but alas!!!! But as I read the description of this blog I remember what I said in my first post here.. This thing of "waiting for the one" is a journey and like all life's journeys, you encounter different experiences to spice up the experience.. I guess this is part of my story..

However way it turns out, I hope to use my journey to inspire, educate and bring humour to someone else's life...

Thank you daddy 'cause I am certain that you have the BEST plans for me and for that I am thankful. Thank you for this Adam to my Eve, thank you for keeping him especially for me. Thank you for ensuring that we compliment each other, thank you for all those things on my list that you have put into consideration when leading him to me. :-)

And thank you for all the young ladies and men who are also trusting you to bring them to the completion of this part of the journey...

Love Always,
One

Just a Little Something....

Hiya Blogsville!!

I have missed blogging soo much! It's all the 'busy-ness' of life... God help moi!

So as always with such a long time passing, there's so much that has gone - and is going on..

As per the last post.. I have been longing to blog about the follow up of the meeting.. SOO guy came back, and all I can say is "Halleluyahhhh" lol

I can safely say that I wasn't acting a fool around him, it was a more confident, self assured young lady that met him this time around.. I tell you, God is the best esteem booster..

For any lady or guy who is still locked in the past of a broken relationship, let me assure you that there's hope.. Sometimes it's harder when the other person has moved on with someone else and it feels like you're stuck in a rut... God has a way of working things out.. Remember, he has a plan for you and like a true father he would hand-pick your own for you.

He's done it before, yours wouldn't be any different!

Lots of love xx

Till death doth this Go?

I told you I would be back *wink*

Hope you all had a great day, mine was nothing short of AWESOME!! I attended a FANTASTIC gospel concert and it was absolutely fabulous.. even if I am lying in bed at the moment, not being able to move! I tell you, High praise is the most effective anti-dote to feeling low/discouraged/depressed/guilty/sad/heart-broken etc.... Why don't you try it out tomorrow... It's Sunday, you can have some "Praise-o-fen".. (If this encourages at least one person to attend church tomorrow, you would have made my weekend + your weekend + His weekend! :-)

Tell me how it goes, I eagerly await your positive responses!!

On another note, I have always wondered if it were possible to completely fall out of love with an ex.. You see, people say that love lasts forever and that like energy, it is never lost but is only transformed to another form. So for instance, love doesn't end with a relationship, it only translates to another emotion such as hate, anger or jealousy...

So I say to myself, that must be quite a situation for a lot of people seeing as sometimes before you meet The One, you kiss quite a number of frogs/caterpillars/apes (lol) whom you sometimes fall in love with (?)....

So there was this guy I (think) I was in love with and now I (almost strongly) believe I have gotten over him.. The thing is, I haven't seen him in a while and so the letting go part has been quite good.. He's coming into town soon and I am about to know for sure if it's all done and dusted now! I am actually looking forward to seeing him so I can analyse the way I react/respond to him.. I shall definitely be coming back to share with you..

Afterwards, then I would do a post on "How to Let Go" or perhaps "How to handle unwanted emotions"... Please pray with me that it would be the former! lol

Lots of love xx

Where are the Beautiful Ones I Ask?!?

Is it possible to find a guy who has it all?!!

I ask because I really want to know. For those who have met Mr Right, would you say he was all that you wanted/asked for without compromise?

It’s such a tricky situation sometimes.. I am not trying to be pessimistic; I just want to hear your opinion (in an objective manner).

As a young lady, you have plans about the kind of guy that you want to be with.... For me, it would include but not limited to good Christian, good looking/attractive, generous, good sense of humour, intelligent, tall, available and ready to make a commitment. But it seems like I meet guys who have one or two of the qualities and are lacking in other areas I consider vital.... So the problem isn’t finding a tall and handsome, young, intelligent man, it’s the fact that he doesn’t really see the point in going to church or that he is as stingy as a church rat!

Other times, it’s finding a good fire-brand Christian, attractive, young man, short/average height with the personality of a toothpick!

Why is it hard to meet a man who loves God, looks good, kind-hearted, charismatic, can hold a decent conversation, confident height + *cherry on the top* single!?

May God help us single ladies…

So what do you think? Is it possible, are our demands unrealistic (bearing in mind – ask and you shall be given), are they all married or are the beautiful ones not yet born!?

(I would also appreciate some male perspectives please!)
PS: Sorry about being MIA….. I shall be here more often, God willing!
And thanks for the comments on the last post…

Lots of love xx

LINE OF FRIENDSHIP

Quick question,

Can guys and girls JUST be friends??

I know this is an age old question but I would still like to know..

How "close" can you be to a friend of the opposite sex who is in a relationship? I have had this conversation with a lot of my girl friends who are in this kind of situation.

For instance, I have a friend who is "best friends" with this guy who has a girlfriend... He talks to her, *his buddy* first thing in the morning.. sends her texts/emails and sometimes an additional phone call just to show he cares.. When he has issues, he runs to her for advice especially when he wants to get a female opinion (you get me?).. He even seeks her advice when he wants to do something special for his girlfriend (No one questions the fact that he loves his girlfriend, he lets the whole world knows!)..

Although they are really just friends, I always ask the question "Would you like your boyfriend to have a girl-friend like that?"... As a guy, would you be comfortable if your girlfriend had that kind of relationship with another guy? What would happen during "vulnerable" moments? (cause there would surely be)

So what are your thoughts?? Where do you draw the line of friendship?? Is there a line to be drawn really or should your other half be a bit more understanding and accommodating??

There's Nobody like You.....

....... For some reason, I have only just listened to this amazing song by Lara George. I cannot begin to describe how much I love this song. Perhaps it's because of the deep love I have for the One she sings about.. Oh the words are so beautiful and so true! And the way in which the song is sung with such emotion and passion makes me "enter" into it...

I love any song that talks about the fact that there's no one like our God.. This is soo true! Like one song aptly puts it, you can search everywhere and through eternity and still find that there is no one like God, there is no one like Jesus!

This is why/how I know:

-No one loves me the way He does

- No one makes me feel the way He makes me feel

- No one completes me like He does

- Nothings satisfies my soul like He does

- No one makes me feel complete like He does

- No one makes me feel as special as He does

- No one will willingly die for me like He did

- No one will wipe away all my tears like He does

- No one cares as deeply and as sincerely as He does

- No one knows how to fill my heart with such utter joy like He does

- No one makes me smile like he does

... I could go on and on..

Ok, just a little bit more :-)

- No one is as great as He his

- No one holds the world in the palm of His hands like He does

- No one sends rain in due season like He does

- No one knows how to make the thunders roar and lightnings strike like He does

- No one knows how to make the birds sing or the lions roar like He does

- No one knows how to make the sun set or the moon shine like He does

- No one knows how to part the sea in two like He did

- No one knows how to send fire from the sky and even lick up water like He did

- No one knows how to heal diseases with words like He can

- No one knows how to touch you in the place where it really hurts like He knows

- No one understands like He does

- No one forgives all like He does

- No one knows the beginning and is the beginning like He does and is

- No one knows the end and is the end like he does and is

Oh Ancient of Days, Balm in Gilead, Holy One of Israel, I Am that I Am, Sword of My Excellency, Faithful Witness, First Begotten of the Dead, Prince of the Kings of the Earth, Alpha, Omega, Son of God, Amen, Beginning of the Creation of God, He that holds the Seven Stars in His Right Hand, Who Walks in the midst of the Seven Golden Candlesticks, Who has the Sharp Sword with Two Edges, Who has the Seven Spirits of God and the Seven Stars, Holy, True, Who holds the Key of David, Who Opens and no man can Shut, Who shuts and no man can Open.... THERE IS NO ONE LIKE YOU!