'Thus Says The Lord': Brothers Step Up! - Grace Efezokhae

You all need to see the grin on my face when I read beautiful love stories of how couples met on Waiting and Loving

It!!! series on 1 + The One and also Wedding features on Bellanaija weddings. 

It’s always interesting to note that even the mundane of things could attract two strangers together - from the nice hair the babe had on to the guy’s dentition amongst others. For me, I get attracted to a nice pair of shoes on a guy and a neatly done haircut. Who knows, maybe that’s what will attract me to THE ONE. Ayo, watch out for our love story….lol! "Grace saw a guy wearing this cute pointed pair of shoes and voila we both shouted Eureka!"..hahahah!

I listened to a young pastor preach some time ago and he talked about how he met his wife. He said he was at a Christian gathering and he was attracted to this beautiful lady with lovely legs. The Holy Spirit revealed to him at that point that she was his wife. He began speaking in tongues before the Holy Spirit told him “Come on go and talk to her”. Now, that’s my grouse for this write up o. Why do Christian brothers get so spiritualized about a common 'boy meet girl' kind of thing or getting to know each other better?

If God reveals someone to you as your to-be spouse. Why would you just walk up to the person and start quoting scriptures and telling her straightaway what God has told you? It may have worked for some, don’t get me wrong. I just feel the process of becoming friends first is a really good thing. Why not start by being friends and gradually both of you can be on the same page of conviction. 

So many ladies have been misled and manipulated by some spirikoko brothers with the “Thus saith the Lord” proposals.

Sometime last year, a so called brother in my service unit at church gave me a Christmas gift in form of a bible and a book. I was like “Oh thank you” and even bought him a book the following week. I did not read any meaning to it because It was the season of gift exchange between the church members at that time. After then, he came with the “Thus saith the Lord” said proposal. He was like “Daddy (referring to God) revealed you to me, that Grace you are...." Etc etc, and proceeded to tell how I needed to pray about it.... My thoughts??I’d rather pray for the kids in Somalia who need a plate of food!! I

I’m sure the utter look of annoyance on my face was evidence enough for him. Now here's the thing, he didn’t even get to know me first neither did he even ask if I was in a relationship! He just came with his own desires and in my opinion, started using God as a cover up. To make matters even more dicey, he started pestering with calls asking if I had been praying about it. After a few days, I got really fed-up and gosh I had to give him a piece of my mind. 

He said he would go back to talk with Daddy... 

You see, I have my personal relationship with God too and God should have given me a conviction the way he did for Joseph and Mary right? I think it’s high time the Christian brothers woke up and realized that there are some phases in life they don’t need to 'over-spiritualise'. Dress well and look good not by wearing cutlass sized ties, larger than life shirts and over flapped trousers. These are just one of the many reasons why sometimes we see a fervent Christian sister rolling with a non-spiritualised dude, and we begin to wonder what the sister is seeing that we can’t see!

Enough said….1 Corinthians 14:33 – “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints”. God loves us ladies so much that he will not force any brother down our throat by malicious prophecies. He has given us the gift of freewill. Will God give you a brother you are not physically attracted to? No, he won’t. if he is really the One, God will give you a natural desire to love him as he is. Develop a more personal relationship with God and don’t be deceived by all these “Thus saith the Lord” proposal even if the brother is the most spiritualized brother on earth!

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And Miss Grace has spoken! What are your thoughts? Do you think it's alright to go with the flow once a 'broo' has come to tell you 'thus says the Lord'?

For the brothers in the house? Any responses? I look forward to reading your thoughts!

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Grace Efezokhae fondly called graciemama is a Chartered Accountant and a graduate of Accounting from Covenant University. She has worked previously with 2 of the big 4 Accounting firms. She has a passion for writing and blogs at graciemama.com. She looks forward to traveling round the world in her lifetime. You can contact her by email at gracie_blog@yahoo.com