Don't be a fool, choose your love wisely

Whenever I hear of yet another case of domestic violence, it makes me so sad! Like why? why? why on earth?!!

Why would you inflict such hurt - physical and emotional on someone that you profess to love or that you have made a commitment to?

I believe very much that 'prevention is better than cure'.. Usually people say that there are signs in relationships that you can identify to tell what someone is capable of or not (not in all cases) but in enough cases to avoid being in a depleting, draining and destructive marriage.

"But I love him/her!" 

- "Oh, zip it!!"

Why do you stay when you know that the person is somehow inclined to do horrible things to you? Why do you go ahead when you know that this person has the potential to hurt you! Forget the 'good days', because if you do go ahead, they will pale in significance to the horror of the bad days! This not only applies to domestic violence but other bad habits too - cheating, emotional abuse, stinginess, irresponsibility, lies...

Why would you mar your destiny and life because of the inability, wisdom and confidence to make an informed decision.

My people perish for lack of knowledge..

If you don't know, get knowledge.. As a single individual, do your research... Don't sit down and count sheep, and when it's time to make a decision, you are so devoid of knowledge and information that you don't even know counterfeit when the signs are written all over their foreheads! You deserve so much more!

And when you have information, be wise.. Don't ignore the signs. Be real with yourself, your future and your destiny.. The pain you will experience now in breaking it off is worth more than the future horrors of remaining.

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Children have been left orphaned, broken, destroyed due to a careless choice. Don't add to the statistics..

Great destinies lie unfulfilled, in the grave, never seeing the light of day because of a really bad choice, don't be a statistic.

Mothers, fathers have had to go through the harrowing experience of burying their own children because of a very bad choice.. don't add to the numbers.

Men and women who are but a shadow of themselves, walk pass you day by day - 'alright' on the outside but oh so empty on the inside/ full on the inside but unable to express the greatness that lies fallow on the inside, all because of a terrible choice they made.. please don't do that to yourself..

Save your future, save your generations to come.. Get knowledge, get information, ask questions, confide in mentors, prepare yourself. There are sooo many resources available to us all today on relationships, marriages et al. There are real life examples to learn from too.. Don't ignore the signs.. If you have to, leave NOW!

"Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding". - Proverbs 4:7