Thursday, 10 November 2016

Don't Forget to LIVE!!!

I remember being asked once what one thing I'd like to say to my younger self. 
As this was with regards to relationships and life, I knew there was certainly one thing I would like to tell the younger Ayo if given the opportunity:

"Enjoy your youth, don't focus so much on relationships and getting married that you forget to LIVE!!"

Don't forget to LIVE!!
I was sharing at the meeting that according to my view on how my life should go, I ought to have been married at the age of 23! *I laugh in Afemai*.

I had always been in love with the idea of love and even while I was a teenager, I fantasised about what my life would be with my significant other! I dreamt and had visions of romance and flowery moments and memories. I couldn't wait to get married and like many young girls, I wanted to hopefully marry my first boyfriend - you know, high school sweetheart fairytale. 

So I spent a lot of time trying to see if the next guy that spoke to me was the much awaited promised messiah spouse. I can't tell you how many times I tried out surnames and signatures *covers face* hahaha..

If I knew I would still be single 7 years after the deadline year, I would have saved myself all that stress!! 

I would have rather enjoyed making friends and doing just that! Not worrying about compatibility or going the extra mile! I would have relaxed much more knowing that when it was God's time, He would make it happen without me having to make such a fuss, after all, He makes all things beautiful in His time. (Ecclesiastes 3:11)

Today, I meet many young ladies and guys who are in very similar frames of mind I was in myself and I want to BEG them to just chill! Yes, pray about marriage, learn about it, don't neglect it but relax, enjoy knowing yourself, enjoy life and beautiful friendships, save yourself tears and anxieties worrying about what you should not be anxious about.

Focus on building yourself, working on cultivating a close relationship with God, building your portfolio as a human being, sowing great seeds for your future and that of generations after you - Learn a new skill; you could even set a self-development challenge for yourself each month. You have the gift of time, give it up for a good cause.

Please, don't waste this beautiful season of your life trying to be in the next season without actually being in the next season (you get me?) (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

May God help us all!

Lots of love xxxx

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  1. This is sooo true!1 Good thing though, I have always been a weirdo so I never really obsessed about marriage. If anything, I was a little wary of it.

    I live by this motto in life generally though. Never forget to live and enjoy the moment

    1. Same here. I never was moved by marriage, weddings, the likes. Instead I used to have some fear about letting go of my 'independence'

  2. Hiya Toinlicious!!
    You're not a weirdo at all! That should actually be everyone.. Lol

    Carpe Diem - Seize the day! You never get another opportunity to re-live a time, day or opportunity! xx

  3. #smiles, Ayo, man proposes and God disposes. He has his reason for keeping you till this time. Just chill and enjoy life cus when he comes and babies follow you won't the time o... #lol,

  4. Thanks dear for this piece you just answered my question

  5. I love you Ayo....God bless you for this...

  6. Different seasons, different blessings.


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